Here's how Urban Dictionary defines a "Hard Femme": "Not to be mistaken with the typical femme, the "hard femme" describes herself as "queer", is political, looks more feminine than masculine, and if prompted, can kick some serious ass. She doesn't need to "wear the pants" in a relationship- the hard femme rules with a dress. She not only despises the gender binary, she works to dismantle it." Navigating the queer world can be difficult. As a whole we strive to eliminate labels and break stereotypes, but along the way we have only added to them. In the binary system of (cis)man and (cis)woman, there are also several subcategories, meant to only further define who we are as individuals. For example, I could be considered many things: hard femme, stem(stud &femme), or a feminine aggressive. None of these things define who I am as a person but within the community these labels help others to understand why I prefer a mohawk to l…
I know how you feel. You're searching for lesbian clubs in NJ, and you're being directed to New York City. Well, there's two reasons for that: New York City has some of the best lesbian events and lesbian clubs in NJ are scarce.
Awhile back I reviewed some of the top lesbians clubs in NYC. Although New Jersey's nightlife will never be as vibrant as New York's, there are still some establishments dedicated to the gays, so let's talk. iKON Formerly known as Deko Lounge, iKon is one of the most well-known clubs in Central New Jersey. Back when it was Deko, this was the go to joint for my friends and I because it was a guaranteed good time. There are 3 different rooms with music ranging from techno to Latin to hip-hop and the drinks are cheap! I celebrated a birthday here with all of my friends, and it was one of the most memorable occasions.
Unfortunately, much has changed, and since a new owner took over the club things have changed. Today, iKon is mainly a boys cl…
People talk a lot. They hope and dream about the
places they want to see and the things that they want to do but they don’t
often do it. Sometimes they dream so big that they begin to live in that dream.
The dream becomes reality even when everyone else knows they are still awake. I
try not to dream too big. I never want to be overcome by a dream that I lose
all sense of where I actually am and what I’m actually doing. This might seem counter-intuitive to how to make a dream come true but that’s just how I work. I’ll
research, watch and wait for the right time to make the leap from something I
just talk about to something I can do. My friend Courtney has always
been a dreamer. Since the day I met her she’s talked about being famous and for
some time I believed she would. She’s attractive, outgoing and she has a way
about her that always made her seem so cool. I’ve always thought she could
probably have any person she wanted and on many occasions I’ve watched that
happen right in front o…