Fantasy, and The Reality of it...

Dreams and fantasy are so beautiful because they don't show the seams. In our fantasies are desires are catered to, and there is only satisfaction.


I recently turned a fantasy into reality. The decision took time, but I have no regrets. What I've noticed is my human inability to allow a fantasy to stay the way it is without molding it into reality.


Now that the fantasy has become a part of my reality. what's next?
Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The Hard Femme

Image
Here's how Urban Dictionary defines a "Hard Femme": "Not to be mistaken with the typical femme, the "hard femme" describes herself as "queer", is political, looks more feminine than masculine, and if prompted, can kick some serious ass. She doesn't need to "wear the pants" in a relationship- the hard femme rules with a dress. She not only despises the gender binary, she works to dismantle it."
Navigating the queer world can be difficult. As a whole we strive to eliminate labels and break stereotypes, but along the way we have only added to them. In the binary system of (cis)man and (cis)woman, there are also several subcategories, meant to only further define who we are as individuals.
For example, I could be considered many things: hard femme, stem(stud &femme), or a feminine aggressive. None of these things define who I am as a person but within the community these labels help others to understand why I prefer a mohawk to l…
Read more

Reviewed: Lesbian Nightlife in NJ

Image
I know how you feel. You're searching for lesbian clubs in NJ, and you're being directed to New York City. Well, there's two reasons for that: New York City has some of the best lesbian events and lesbian clubs in NJ are scarce.
Awhile back I reviewed some of the top lesbians clubs in NYC. Although New Jersey's nightlife will never be as vibrant as New York's, there are still some establishments dedicated to the gays, so let's talk. 
iKON Formerly known as Deko Lounge, iKon is one of the most well-known clubs in Central New Jersey. Back when it was Deko, this was the go to joint for my friends and I because it was a guaranteed good time. There are 3 different rooms with music ranging from techno to Latin to hip-hop and the drinks are cheap! I celebrated a birthday here with all of my friends, and it was one of the most memorable occasions.

Unfortunately, much has changed, and since a new owner took over the club things have changed. Today, iKon is mainly a boys cl…
Read more

Lesbian Nightlife in NYC Reviewed

Image
After reading an AutoStraddle.com post featuring The Dalloway (a trendy SOHO lesbian bar that opened in September of 2012), I realized that the LGBTQ nightlife in NYC needs some reviewing from someone that is purely a patron. Luckily, I don't stand to gain anything from any of the places in NYC that I frequent, so I can be as straight forward as possible.

As a black lesbian in this beautiful city, it has not always been so easy finding a bar or club that has just the right scene. Fortunately, my circle has expanded and I have been introduced to more lesbo-centric bars and nightclubs than necessary. I imagine the perfect lesbian bar/nightclub with a hard femme decor, diverse music, moderately priced drinks (with drink specials), dance space, lounge area, hot bartenders, bar food(wings, sliders and salads) and NO COVER. That is the perfect place no matter who you want to sleep with, but since we're here for the queer, let's stick to one portion of the population.

Lesbian Bar…
Read more