Things like sex, relationships, and feelings. She asked me if I thought I had found "the one", and I shuddered as I read the word to myself over and over.
One of the best lessons my father and mother have taught me is the security in preparation. My mother did not falter when my father left because everything she had was all her own. My father also taught me to never let anyone surprise me or catch me off guard. His best lesson, the lesson he never knew he taught me was that love comes in different degrees. To this day, I do not think my father has ever found his one true love, but it hasn't stopped him from giving a part of his love to the women he has come across.
***My friend explained to me her definition of "the one", and just what this meant to her. She detailed the life's journey one experiences once they have found their "one", but I wasn't willing to comprehend. I have been in love before. I have loved and lost. I am currently in love, but to say that I will ever find that "one" person seems far-fetched. My tunnel vision currently only goes as far as career and livelihood. I may not be alone at this current time, yes, that's true, but it does not mean that I would be any less of myself if I was. This does not diminish my relationship. In fact, I believe it adds strength. I wouldn't want to be with someone that was only complete because we were together. Then again, some would say that is what finding your "one" is all about.
I sure as hell don't blame my mother.
I'm thankful for the lesson and more thankful for my lover,
that manages to love me with all of these flaws....