Nicole Malachi, The Endo Warrior

We sat across from one another and I stared at her indifferently. In my eyes she had abandoned our burgeoning friendship, as I so desperately wanted to make new friends. I felt as though meeting up again was a waste of time, and as our mutual friends filled the seats around us I kept thinking that I shouldn't have come.

"You can't just not talk to your friends! You can't just disappear!" I yelled at her. She looked at me with such surprise and replied, "Jayelle, I didn't think you'd even care." 

That was the last time I saw Nicole, and I thought I'd never see her again. At the time I felt she was wrong, but looking back I now know that she was right.

endo warriors support group image

Yesterday evening I attended an event for the Endo Warriors support group for women living with endometriosis. The event was held at The Bubble Lounge in New York City, and Nicole invited me despite how long it had been since we last saw each other. 

When I walked in, she gave me such a big hug that I almost felt inadequate. Here I was harboring indifference, as she welcomed me with open arms and an open heart. It wasn't until Nicole approached the microphone that I began to understand just how selfish I had been.

Endometriosis is a debilitating disease that is usually misdiagnosed and underrepresented. Millions of women suffer from this disease, and the Endo Warriors seek to support those that feel they have no where to turn and no one to turn to. The group is lead by three women: Nicole Malachi, Jill Fuersich, Jordan Davidson.

As I sat across from her that day, believing she had simply stopped communicating; I had been completely ignorant to her struggle. I sat their stone faced only focusing on my own insignificant issues, oblivious to her situation.

During Nicole's speech last night, I learned so much about her and even more about what she has gone through. I was also thoroughly educated on a disease that my friend has to deal with everyday. Here she was standing in front of me as a survivor, and there I was mouth agape seeing my friend for who she really is, a warrior


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